Amor Index — Situations

Where are you
right now?

Evidence-based guidance organised by life stage — not by topic. Because how you experience a relationship challenge depends entirely on where you are in the story.

Each pathway draws on peer-reviewed research in attachment theory, clinical psychology, and neuroscience.
Complexity:

Going Through a Breakup

Understanding the science of loss — and how to move through it

A breakup activates the same neural pathways as physical pain. Research using fMRI imaging shows that romantic rejection stimulates the anterior cingulate cortex — the same region that processes physi…

Acute grief, social pain, identity disruption5 evidence-based steps5 curated guidesMedium complexity

First step

Acknowledge the neurological reality

Days 1–7

Affects approximately 85% of adults at least onceRead pathway

Trying to Reconnect

The evidence on reconciliation — what works, what doesn't, and why

Reconciliation after a breakup is more common than most people realise — research suggests that 40–50% of couples who break up attempt to get back together at least once. But the research is clear tha…

Hope, ambivalence, fear of repeated rejection5 evidence-based steps5 curated guidesMedium complexity

First step

Diagnose what actually ended the relationship

Before any contact

40–50% of broken-up couples attempt reconciliationRead pathway

In a Struggling Relationship

Evidence-based approaches to repairing connection before it breaks

Most relationships that end do not end suddenly. Research by Gottman shows that couples wait an average of six years after problems begin before seeking help — by which point the negative patterns are…

Frustration, disconnection, grief for the relationship you had5 evidence-based steps5 curated guidesMedium complexity

First step

Identify your interaction pattern, not just the content

Immediate

Approximately 70% of couples report significant relationship distress at some pointRead pathway

Starting Over

Building the foundation for a different kind of relationship

Starting over after a significant relationship is not simply about finding someone new. Research consistently shows that people who enter new relationships without processing the previous one — unders…

Hope, vulnerability, cautious optimism5 evidence-based steps5 curated guidesMedium complexity

First step

Complete the grief process before dating

Before active dating

Most adults enter 3–5 significant relationships in their lifetimeRead pathway

Navigating a Toxic Pattern

Recognising destructive cycles — and the science of breaking them

Toxic relationship patterns are not character flaws — they are learned behavioural loops, often rooted in early attachment experiences, that repeat across relationships. Research shows that awareness …

Confusion, shame, intermittent hope, exhaustion4 evidence-based steps5 curated guidesMedium complexity

First step

Name the pattern, not the person

Week 1–2

Research suggests 30–40% of adults have been in at least one relationship characterised by a toxic cycleRead pathway

Rebuilding After Infidelity

The evidence-based path through betrayal — whether you stay or leave

Infidelity is one of the most common reasons couples seek therapy, and one of the most complex to navigate. Research shows that the aftermath of betrayal — the trauma response, the decision-making pro…

Betrayal trauma, hypervigilance, grief, anger, confusion4 evidence-based steps5 curated guidesMedium complexity

First step

Recognise the trauma response

Days 1–30

Infidelity affects an estimated 20–25% of marriages and 40–50% of long-term relationshipsRead pathway

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